Why so many wives?
I had to bring an interpreter with me. First day, when dinner time comes, I am served alone in the room they had freed for me.
I was not very happy about this. Meal time is an occasion for me for discussion. I ask my interpreter why? “Because they are ashamed,” she says. “They eat with their hands”. “Well, this is not a problem” I explain to her. “Many people in the world eat with their hands” and showed her the pictures of Korea, Vietnam and others.
I also explained that in my culture, when I have people at home, if I served them dinner alone in one room while I was having dinner with my family, they would be very insulted and I would probably never see them again.
The interpreter must have explained this, because the next day, the three wives came to have lunch with me in the little room, sitting on the floor was The interpreter told them that I had lived before in a family where there were many wives. In Papua New Guinea, there were five wives; “Five!” Are they Muslim? was the first question. Learning that polygamy is not Muslim initially. Why so many? they asked.
I explain to them, that in PNG, when a woman is pregnant and until the child is “so high” (3 years old about) the man cannot touch his wife. – This rule is first to assure that the wife will stay strong enough to do all the work and second to assure that the child will have better chance to live.
“Oh!” the three wives explain, “We would also like to have this rule!”
I felt like sending a fax to PNG telling them: “Hey, there’s people here who think your way of doing is top, when most people speak of you has primitives.
It always depends on how you look at things is it not?